Fairy Dusted Blog

Two wings coaching questions cptsd embracing change embracing new beginnings emotional healing emotional resilience empowerment family dynamics finding balance healing journey internal family systems letting go mental health mindset shift overcoming trauma personal growth personal transformation psychological well-being self-acceptance self-discovery self-improvement simplifying life surviving vs thriving thriving in life toxic relationships Oct 07, 2024

Today’s Fairy Dusted Lesson:

I was having a conversation about surviving versus thriving and I was talking about some of the things I wanted to accomplish before the end of the year. My friend commented that it was like you’ve been flying with one wing all along and now it’s...

Continue Reading...
A Hard Truth About Codependency codependency codependent complex cptsd fawn fawn trauma response people pleasers Sep 17, 2024

 Sick of feeling like an imposter or a fraud?  Yet, notice how you don’t quit showing up to your job or class where you feel like an imposter.  You’re a good person with impeccable integrity, so why would you stay somewhere where you believe that you’re a...

Continue Reading...
The One Thing That CPTSD Kids Can Always Count On ask the advanced bitch cptsd cptsd and life purpose fawn response the advanced bitch the cycle of abuse Sep 11, 2024

Did you know I have a YouTube Channel that is the new home of Ask an Advanced Bitch?  Last week I answered a question about repetitive dreams (click here) and this week I’ll answer a question about two different levels of messiness in one household.  If you have a question for me,...

Continue Reading...
Your Life Purpose Finds You advanced personal growth techniques for cptsd cptsd healing imposter syndrome tools for trauma healing Aug 06, 2024

The Irreverent Imposter Syndrome Guide deconstructs Imposter Syndrome so you can be yourself and not an imposter anymore.  One side effect of less imposter syndrome is More You!!!!  The Modules:

  1. Imposter Syndrome is a Part of You (Not all of you!)
  2. Imposter Syndrome is a...
Continue Reading...
Fawns are Red Shirts childhood indoctrination cptsd emotional blackmail emotional manipulation family dynamics healing identity and life purpose impact of favoritism on personality people pleasers Jul 29, 2024

The Irreverent Imposter Syndrome Guide deconstructs Imposter Syndrome so you can be yourself and not an imposter anymore.  One side effect of less imposter syndrome is MORE JOYYYYYYYY!!!!!  


Omg “not accepting praise is being cold and not allowing myself to connect to...

Continue Reading...
What the soul wants codependency cptsd fawn response Jul 16, 2024

Hello, hello, hello…good to see you!


“The human soul doesn’t want to be advised, fixed or saved.  It simply wants to be witnessed – to be seen, heard and companioned exactly as is.”
– Parker Palmer

 

I hate daily email, but there is one I subscribe...

Continue Reading...
Winning the Comparison Game cptsd healing imposter syndrome the age of magical overthinking by amanda montell tools for trauma healing Jul 08, 2024

Hello, hello, hello…good to see you! 

I have some really interesting news for you.  If you take it in, you’ll be a lot freer than most of people on the planet.

Whoever you’re comparing yourself to right now is dealing with some dark shit that you don’t want any...

Continue Reading...
Getting Misdiagnosed as a CPTSD Kid cptsd May 28, 2024

Magical Lesson:

In this video, I answer a question about Attachment and getting misdiagnosed when you have CPTSD.  If we follow the thread of our issues, we can see that most if not all have their roots in some kind of childhood pain. 

Magical Action Step*:

A few questions you can ask...

Continue Reading...
I Should Do Something Because My Wife Hinted She Wanted It cptsd ladder of trust May 21, 2024

Hello, hello, hello…good to see you!

Magical Lesson:

Last week I sent you an excerpt from The Irreverent Trust Guide, so this week I made a video to show you how I would use the tool on a particular question.  I applied The Ladder of Trust on a question to an advice columnist on what...

Continue Reading...
 
Understanding Psychological Fields & Van Der Kolk's 'The Watchtower' cptsd psychological field study and trauma the watchtower in trauma recovery van der kolk's the body keeps the score insights May 06, 2024

Hello, hello, hello...good to see you.


This is a clip from the last class I taught. I was asked a question about a Field Study and I used a soccer field as a metaphor for the psychological field. Below is the explanation I taught and what Van Der Kolk means when he talks about "The Watchtower" in...

Continue Reading...
 
Don't Follow Your Dreams cptsd repetition compulsion Apr 23, 2024


Hello, hello, hello....good to see you!


Join us this Saturday for the Trauma Book Book Club where we'll be talking about how part of the brain that's the alarm system for our brain and a few tools that can help us remind ourselves that we're safe.


Recently, a friend made a big leap in following...

Continue Reading...
The Highly Sensitive Bitch cptsd the highly sensitive person the highly sensitive person: how to thrive when the world overwhelms you Apr 26, 2022

It’s such a joke when anyone – especially a child is called "too sensitive." It’s a soul searing accusation.  Using “too sensitive” as a slur is pretty ironic given that it is our sensitivity that makes us the empathetic and magical people that we...

Continue Reading...
1 2